Sometimes I feel like a crappy mom, and I’d just like to get Alex’s attention for 2 mins to tell him what I think about him. Today, I decided I’d write him a letter
“I didn’t suffer through 10 months of acid reflux while carrying you to raise an idiot” or The 13 Most Important Things I Can Teach My Children
A new entry from our guest blogger Anna.
Mothers tend to freak out over everything. It is in our very nature as mothers. Huge things, we’ve got on lock, but smallish things and we go into a full-fledged panic. I’ve yet to run across a mother that operated differently. So I spend a fair amount of time reading about how to be a better parent. I’m an awesome parent but I strive for perfection. I understand that I will never get there and that is fine. It’s in the striving. Everything is in the striving. Life IS the striving. All this research means that I’m freaking out over whether or not I should have structured crafts or just put out supplies. My children are too young to even do art projects so this might be slightly premature. Or is it? *panics* I sometimes get so caught up in worrying that I’m a lazy parenting for not having introduced finger painting yet that I forgot what this whole thing is really about. I’m trying to raise a decent human being. I’m trying to help my children along on their journey of becoming who they are and who they were meant to be.
And I haven’t done my job if they haven’t learned the following:
1) All people deserve respect. I don’t even need to explain this, hopefully.
2) The world is scary and beautiful. It is awesome and awful. It’s mean and gross and there are some people out there that will demonstrate to you the very worst traits of humankind. They will be mean to you. Bad things will happen. WONDERFUL things will happen. And it’s all going to be ok.
3) You get what you give. If you give awesomeness to the universe, you will get awesomeness back.
4) Stand up for what you believe in. It will hurt but you won’t be able to live with yourself if you don’t. You might even look like a jerk and people might hate you but heroes are people who do things with the understanding that they will never get any credit for them and might get hated for them, even when they are the right things to do and it should seem like an obvious, no-brainer.
5) Arrested Development is a great show. It was a crime that it got cancelled. A CRIME. But we can all get real excited about the new episodes coming up in May.
6) There is almost never black or white. 97% of things fall in the gray area.
7) MY world revolves around you but THE world does not. Don’t be a jerk.
8) The world is FULL of Jackies. Don’t be a Jackie. Be a Donna. ALWAYS be a Donna.
(I use “That 70’s Show” in many of my examples. There is a lot of wisdom in that show. I think we can also agree that I watch too much tv.) My point is that Donna is great. She is tall. She towers over most of the boys and that is fine. She picks a boyfriend that is good to her. She is super smart and cool and funny. She knows it. I’ll just put her qualities in list form to save time (a list within a list? GET OUT!): Kind. Un-fussy. Real. Fun. Vulnerable. Adventurous. Talented.
So be the Donna. You won’t regret it.
9) Travel. Call me every 12 minutes but travel all over the world. Spread your wings and fly and just please call me at least four times per hour, or else I’m going with you, and I’m old now. I mostly just worry about stuff, so I’m no fun.
10) Listen to your mother. I know you don’t want to hear this but just do it.
11) One of the many gifts I have given you is the gift of anticipating trends. You’ll be reading the trendy book and wearing the cool shoes six months before it is cool. You are welcome. Use it wisely.
12) To my boys: Women are not property. They are not objects. No means no. NO ONE IS ASKING FOR IT. If you see someone that needs help, you will help. You will not tweet about what a slut someone is, ever. You are not a man if you don’t stand up for what is right. Be a man. Be like your dad.
13) I love you. Your dad and I, we love you. We love you so much and we are always looking out for you. We will probably disappoint you and you will probably disappoint us. That’s ok. We will never stop loving you. You will do stupid stuff. We know this because we also did stupid stuff. Lots of it. No matter what you do, we love you and we have your back. Always. Every single time. We don’t care who you love. We don’t care if you choose to be part of the opposite political affiliation. But I’m going to be really mad if I have to sit behind you in a court room.
It is a lot easier to stress out over finger painting than to take on the big stuff in parenting. But I didn’t suffer through 10 months of acid reflux while carrying you to raise an idiot. And cough into your elbow. Nobody likes people who don’t cover their mouths when they cough.
Make sure to check out Anna’s blog at http://annythemommy.wordpress.com/
Hatty’s new baby diary: Elodie is 3-weeks old!
Hatty’s new baby diary – baby Elodie at 10 days old
Well, where to start?? After my last post, the week continued rather the same. Hours of contractions that never came to anything. I had never experienced anything like this with my other two-contractions came, they got stronger, I went to hospital, had a baby and that was that. This was so frustrating, and exhausting and emotionally draining. Thursday night (17th Jan) they started up again, carried on all night-I got a couple of hours sleep- into the next day. My husband and I walked the hills near our house 3 times that day-he was leaving the next day to go to the Sundance Film festival for the premiere of his film and I was filled with a terrible sadness that he really was going to miss this incredible and special moment in our marriage, in our family, I couldn’t really believe that it had come to this, and it was only her due date that Thursday, so it wasn’t even although she was late. By 5pm we rang the hospital to find out our options. The midwife knew what had been going on and for so long too, she knew I was pretty exhausted and suggested we came in and tried a pessary to increase the strength of the contractions. We quickly got ready and left for the hospital, it felt like this time we’d be coming home with our bundle of joy, one way or another. I was hooked up to a monitor, and sure enough there were these contractions but they just weren’t strong enough to dilate me-depressing!! They tried the pessary-4 hours later-nothing more…so then it was decided to hook me up to a pitocin drip which would definitely get the contractions going. I was worried, having heard that the contractions can get really strong and overwhelming with this kind of ‘induction’ but I was ready to have this baby, I wanted my husband to be there, and we went ahead. In the event it felt like a normal labor progression-it was the middle of the night by now (early hours of the 19th Jan), my husband and my Mum took turns to support me and the other took a nap. Then it came to the point (about 6cm) when they could break my waters-wow, things really kicked in then, the last few centimeters were incredibly intense and although it was almost unbearable the staff and my husband and Mum were amazing at controlling me and making sure I didn’t panic. I was just so desperate to push, i was good at that bit!! Finally that moment came and a few contractions later the head was emerging. All the time there was this thought in the back of my head about knowing that it was the time of my husband’s plane to Utah, but the staff had all been in on this and that is why they had broken my waters-everyone wanted him to be there, and of course he was. We had this amazing moment when our daughter emerged and she looked right at us, and then he was gone. Wow, the elation I felt, holding her at last, not being pregnant any more, knowing I would never have to go through that again and feeling complete, was unforgettable. I am not even going to go into the fact that my uterus wouldn’t contract and that I lost a litre of blood and what they had to do to stop it, I had my baby Elodie Grace in my arms. Greg actually missed his flight by a minute, and some time after the birth, I heard he was back (in the event for only another 15 minutes or so until the next flight), he walked into the room with my other two babies-I burst into tears and we were a family-what an amazing day.
About Hatty: When she lived in England Hatty worked as a general practitioner and she now lives with her husband Greg in Santa Monica CA and works as a professional opera singer.
Hatty’s new baby diary: ARRIVAL!
Congratulations to Hatty and the birth of baby girl Elodie! She was born on Jan 19 and weighed in at 9 lbs 2 oz.
A mom’s worst nightmare: Anna needed to tell her story and we wanted to help her spread it.
Anna is our latest guest blogger. She is a mom of two and lives in Southwestern Virginia. Her post captures her journey of last year, when she discovered that her son had a rare congenital disease. If you too want to write or post an entry on our blog please contact us at admin@wemothers.com
This post may not be particularly well written and it won’t be funny. It is a story I need to tell. And hey, thanks for stopping by. More of you read this than I ever thought would and many of you have said very kind things. It warms my heart and I appreciate it.
Tomorrow is an anniversary for my family. Tomorrow, one year ago, we got up at 4:30 am to take our son to the hospital for life-saving surgery. One year ago, I kissed my son goodbye and prayed harder than I’ve ever prayed while the good doctor performed a miracle.
October 2011 was not my favorite month. My mom fell down our basement stairs and broke her ankle into a million pieces. Just a few weeks later, we discovered a lump on our son’s neck. At first, we tried not to pay attention because it was very small. Within a week, it was enormous. We c couldn’t get in with our pediatrician and saw a nurse practitioner. She took one look at his neck and said “I’m going to get the doctor.” We were immediately sent to the hospital for an ultrasound. The next day we had an appointment with an ENT that generally has a five month waiting list.
I’d never heard the words “thyroglossal duct cyst” before that day. It is a rare thing, a congenital thing, and usually shows itself in preschoolers and adults. So, Ezra had a thyroglossal duct cyst and it was seriously infected. The goal from that first day on was to try to get him well enough to have surgery. The placement of the cyst was complicated, basically in his airway. He was struggling big time with asthma as well. We saw the ENT at least once a week and often twice. He would take our phone calls on Saturday nights or Sunday mornings.
It took three months to get him well enough for surgery. We had a failed attempt in December of 2012 in which he stopped breathing on the operating table not once but twice. We decided to take a month, another round of antibiotics, and another round of steroids.
For three months, Ezra ran a fever, had an ear infection, asthma and a major cough. We spent lots of time in the emergency room when breathing treatments at home weren’t enough. Turns out our home was full of mold as well.
I was pregnant and exhausted and working 35-40 hours per week with the craziest hours imaginable. Just needed to throw that in there.
We finally got him well enough to try again and we met my parents at the hospital at some ungodly hour. I will never be able to describe the terror I felt then. The night before Ezra’s surgery, I held him in my arms and cried. There sat the best thing I’ve ever done and I knew that if I lost him, I’d die too. I was so afraid. Every night I’d lie in the bed, listening to him cough and feeling my heart break again and again. I cried every night. I couldn’t even think about being pregnant, it was all too much.
Sitting in the waiting room was excruciating. Dr. P had prepared us for a long surgery. He thought it might take up to four hours but we had no clue. After only an hour and a half (the longest hour and a half of my life), the waiting room phone rang and it was for me. Dr. P was on the other end. “It’s over! We’re done!” He told me that he felt 99% sure that he’d removed the entire cyst and he’d also removed the middle part of the typhoid bone. The swelling was so great from all the infection that we’d have to wait before we knew it was all gone for certain. I hung up the phone and bolted from the waiting room. I have never needed to get out of anywhere as much as I needed to get out of that room. The tears came when I got to the parking lot and found the husband. Relief washed over me in waves. I wept.
Finally, I was allowed in the recovery room. I got in bed with Ezra and held him as he woke up. His black curls were spread out over the pillow and he was pale. He had a bandage on his neck and he looked so small lying there in is his tiger print hospital gown. I held him and thought about the night he was born. I remembered how I felt when I saw him, “Ah, there you are. I’d know you anywhere.”
We moved to a room in the pediatric unit. I sat by his hospital crib and watched him sleep. I was giddy with relief. We only had to stay one night and spent the next few days at home spending equal time resting and playing.
Our journey wasn’t over. Ezra had another surgery and a few more scares before his neck healed completely. Dr. P told us that he’d never had so much trouble with a thyroglossal duct cyst, nor had he seen one in a patient so young. The whole process took 8 months.
Last week, we went for our final visit with the good doctor. We’ve come such a long way since last January. I am now a stay-at-home mom. We welcomed our baby girl in May and she is a princess. We’ve watched Ezra grow into a sweet and hilarious 2-year-old. His asthma seems to be gone. He sings, dances, talks and loves life. Last year seems like a distant nightmare.
He will always have a scar on his neck. When I look at it, I have such gratitude to the universe and God and Dr. P for saving his life.
I want to thank my parents for dropping everything to help on numerous occasions, even when one of them had a compound ankle fracture. I want to thank our babysitters whether they are reading this or not. Most of you worked for free and keeping a sick kid is no fun at all. Without you, we would never have been able to go to work (not that we wanted to leave our sick baby but sometimes you don’t have a choice).
The end of 2011 and most of 2012 was hard. I couldn’t be more glad that it’s over. Some years are so hard that they give you PTSD.
How to end a post like this? I have no idea. But I have to go because Miriam just properly crawled for the first time.
In the words of e.e. cummings: “thank you God for most this amazing day”.
Visit Anna’s blog at http://annythemommy.wordpress.com/
Hatty’s new baby diary: 3 days to go
Well I ended up at the hospital yesterday morning. Woke up and started contracting every 2-5 minutes. They weren’t crazily strong but they were coming so frequently my husband thought we should go to the hospital. That is what they had said, after all, if I was contracting every 5 minutes for an hour, seeing as it was baby no.3…..bag packed in the car and off we went. The Team-me, my husband and my Mum. They hooked me up and got a nice trace of the baby and the contractions, but the exam was similar to my appointment at the clinic last Tuesday. That was depressing. These weren’t strong enough for things to progress, even though they were coming so frequently. I hadn’t known anything like this, with both my other two the contractions started they got stronger, I went to hospital and had the baby. This stop/start long drawn out phase was kind of exhausting, emotionally mainly. We left and just got on with the day. I felt bad for my children that I came home empty handed but they were amazingly good about it. The contractions didn’t progress despite a long walk to the park, penalty shoot out with my son and a walk back…….spicy thai fried rice today and more walking, and I’ve tried pretty much everything in the book. I feel resigned now, more relaxed that she is coming in her own time. Probably a bit cold today anyway to bring a baby into the world.
About Hatty: When she lived in England Hatty worked as a general practitioner and she now lives with her husband Greg in Santa Monica CA and works as a professional opera singer.
Hatty’s new baby diary: due any minute now!
The fourth in a series of posts about Hatty’s experiences having her third child.
Beyond frustrated. Tuesday I go to my appointment, am having some Braxton Hicks contractions and some are stronger, midwife thinks it might even be worth staying around the hospital seeing as she can stretch me to 3cm too and the contractions are coming quite regularly. I’m not ready for that so we go home, they continue on but aren’t really getting stronger and then they stop about 1am. Woken in the night by a few more, and then before I know it, it is Wednesday and another day without meeting my baby. The week has continued like this and it is wearing me out. Everyone is excited and then frustrated when she isn’t coming. The children don’t know what is going on. This may be too much information but got to get it off my chest: mucus plug came yesterday morning so I’m thinking , right that’s definitely it, today is the day. I AM STILL HERE today, sipping tea with a friend trying to work out how I can get it off my mind and think about something else even for a moment. Haven’t figured that one out yet.
About Hatty: When she lived in England Hatty worked as a general practitioner and she now lives with her husband Greg in Santa Monica CA and works as a professional opera singer.
Hatty’s new baby diary: 10 days to go!
The third in a series of posts about Hatty’s experiences having her third child.
Hatty’s new baby diary: 11 days to go
The second in a series of posts about Hatty’s experiences having her third child.
Stayed out too late last night. I felt full of energy and ready to party, had a few strong Braxton Hicks contractions at dinner and thought maybe things might start but no. Read more…
Hatty’s new baby diary: 2 week’s to go!
The first in a series of posts about Hatty’s experiences having her third child.
Well, that was a milestone. My second-born, Anna Rose, was 5 yesterday. She was very clear that she was not going to be sharing her birthday with anyone. Read more…
One mom’s thoughts on having a baby in the US versus the UK
The writer is Los Angeles resident, Harriet Frasier, a British general practitioner and professional opera singer who moved from London to the States with her young family and is now expecting her third child.
This is my 3rd and I feel a long way from home. I am a trained British doctor and know the National Health Service system in my country like the back of my hand. Read more…
Essentials for new born Twins
A friend of ours had twins one year before we did. Because we knew she liked to research everything we asked her for her advice on what we really needed to get ready for the arrival of the twins. Read more…
Great & simple Christmas decoration idea
Only works in cold weather of course: take a balloon. Fill it with water. Add food coloring and let freeze. Once frozen remove the balloon skin. And there you have gorgeous ice balloons.
How and why we simplify Christmas
This is our first guest post from Kelin, an executive chef and now a stay-at-home mom. Make sure to check out her blog
OK, so I don’t have a lot of time or even a recipe to share today (I know, bad food blogger!), but I did want to spend the few minutes I do have sharing something important to me Read more…
Top tips for staying sane during Thanksgiving
As if you need reminding, Thanksgiving can be sa stressful time of year for mothers! Traveling to see friends or relatives (or in-laws!). Dealing with every one’s different dietary needs and demands. Keeping the kids entertained without resorting to just sticking them in front of the TV or computer screen. Read more…
Celebrity new moms set unrealistic expectations for other new moms
The weeklies and entertainment blogs are full of features about how quickly celebrity mothers lost their baby weight after giving birth. Heidi Klum, Beyonce, Victora Beckham and Gisele Bundchen all seemed to regain their pre-pregnancy shape within a few short weeks. Read more…
Get some Retail Therapy at WeMothers
Retail Therapy is a carefully curated collection of products that all mothers will appreciate. Each product chosen has very high user ratings and is available for purchase online through trusted retailers including Amazon.com. Like all the best window shopping, the experience is easy and fun. Read more…
Do we all need to disconnect to reconnect?
The cover from The New Yorker magazine a couple of years ago is a very funny, yet sad commentary on how being connected through our smart phones is disconnecting us from the people around us. The light from the doorway lights up the faces of the trick-or-treaters. The light from the phones lights up the faces of their parents waiting at the end of the driveway. Smart phones are frighteningly addictive – in many studies people say they couldn’t imagine life without theirs – because they give us instant gratification in the form of texts, instant messages, emails and games. But they also stop us from communicating with real people in real time, including our children.
Exercise as effective as medications in treating depression in new mothers
A growing body of research indicates that exercise is an effective treatment for depression and is comparable to medications. Traditionally, exercise has been recommended for people with mild-to-moderate depression. But as two clinical trials have found, exercise can alleviate major depression as effectively as medications. And there’s no evidence that exercise has a negative impact on breast-feeding.
Mothers can now track their moods over time
WeMothers has a ‘My Moods’ feature that allows mothers to track how they have been feeling over the period of time they chose, and see which emotions they’ve experienced most often.
We Mothers is a website that is currently in beta (or ‘test’) phase, which allows moms in the USA and Canada to track their feelings and see how other mothers are feeling.
WeMothers launches new way for moms to share feelings
WeMothers.com has been launched as a beta (or “test”) site. It gives mothers in the USA and Canada a unique way to share their feelings. Mothers can sign up through Facebook and create a personal profile. They can then log their emotions using a “mood wheel” and write a mood diary that only they can see. A map shows the moods of mothers in real time without revealing any personal information about who they are. The beta site is being launched to only a small number of users at first to hear their feedback and make improvements.
Is it okay to breastfeed in public?
In Detroit, Michigan, a bus driver threatened to kick a woman off a public bus unless she stopped breastfeeding her two-week-old child. Read more…
Why our kids need to stay physically active
Research by Nike found that in just two generations, the rate of active play, physical education, and overall physical activity has dropped by 20% in the U.K., 32% in the U.S., and 45% in China. Read more…
How to lose that post baby weight
Going on an official diet could derail your post-pregnancy weight loss goals. Read more…
Mom turns a messy problem into a successful business idea
Mother Debbie Wiener created the Paint Pen to touch up the paint on the walls in her home that has taken a beating by her sons and husband. Read more…
7 out of 10 kids in homes with tablet devices use the tablets themselves
Some more facts and figures about how kids are using them and what effects they are having can be seen in this infographic from Schools.com
Twins might sleep better together
In the U.S, about three of every 100 pregnant women give birth to twins or triplets. Read more…
Working mothers have mixed emotions
Motherhood brings many difficult decisions, but perhaps the most fiercely debated is whether women should work outside the home, especially when their children are small. Read more…
Pink is an amazing mother
Singer Pink might be an unlikely role model for motherhood, but she trying to do her best for child and that’s what makes mothers like Pink amazing. As she told Cosmo magazine in a recent interview “I’ve exorcised a lot of my demons [becoming a mother], but I’m still working on myself. I think I’ll be a work in progress for the rest of my life”. Pink gave birth to a little girl, Willow in June of 2011 with her husband Corey Hart.
Why is my baby still awake?!
Getting your baby to go to sleep can be tough at times. Because prolonged or animated eye contact with you is one of the most stimulating things for your little love, one tip is to avert your eyes when you’re putting him to sleep or calming her when she wakes.
For more tips take a look at this resource on Parenting.com
Is organic baby food worth the extra cost?
Not for their nutritional value, but if you’re worried about the pesticides used in non-organic foods or the environmental impact, then they probably are worth it. Read more…
Brooke Shields – a very successful only child
Brooke Christa Shields was born May 31, 1965 and is a successful actress and model. Some of her better-known movies include Pretty Baby and The Blue Lagoon, as well as TV shows such as Suddenly Susan, That ’70s Show and Lipstick Jungle. Several studies show that firstborns and only children, like Brooke, usually reach higher educational goals, obtain greater prestige and acquire more net worth, while a middle child is likely to struggle a bit more.
How does divorce affect the kids?
Children of divorce tend to fall behind in their math and social skills and may not catch up with their peers, a study shows. Read more…
How to shake those Monday morning blues
Many mothers feel a little bit down on Monday mornings. Read more…
Pregnant mothers take to the runway
Pregnant models, complete with pregnant bellies and strollers, took over New York’s Fashion Week this week. ”I feel amazing,” said mom model Lauren Jimeson, who is 37 weeks pregnant and strutted in a cream cocktail dress with cut-outs on the sleeves. “It’s just a great message that you can be fashionable and still be a mom and still look great and feel great.”
5 top tips for fussy eaters
Often it’s a real struggle to get the kids to eat healthy things, like vegetables, as part of their daily diets. Here are some tips that might help: Read more…
5 top tips for dealing with the Terrible Twos
When your toddler starts to say “No!” to everything and throws frequent tantrums, you know you have probably entered the dreaded Terrible Twos. Here are some tips on how to deal with them: Read more…
How normal is having an imaginary friend?
Very normal. According to studies, between 48% and 65% of children have imaginary friends. They almost always are of the same gender as the child. Read more…
Are you a mother who tends to smother?
If so, it might be bad for you and your kids. Moms who believe their lives should revolve around their children have lower levels of satisfaction with their own lives. Read more…
5 top tips for dealing with squabbling siblings
Siblings fight. Whether it’s because of jealousy, personality clashes or just spending so much time together, friction between siblings is almost inevitable. Here are 5 tips for dealing with it: Read more…
An unborn baby putting its stamp on the world
Babies start to kick in the womb around 16-24 weeks. They kick more when the mother is relaxing or when she is eating or drinking something with sugar in it. Mom, I want some!
Looking after young kids is not always a bed of roses
A University of Michigan study asked moms with kids younger than 3-years old to score the most pleasurable activities of their day. Read more…
Alicia Keys was an only child
Alicia is just one example of highly talented only children who have made there mark on the world.
Stay-at-home-moms often more depressed than working moms
A Gallup survey of 6,000 mothers found that SAHM’s are more likely to have felt depression, sadness, anger and worry than working mothers, The survey found that 41 percent of them felt worry, 26 percent felt sadness, 50 percent felt stress, 19 percent felt anger and 28 percent had been diagnosed with depression. The figures for working moms were lower. Unlike working moms, stay-at-home-moms can be isolated so it’s important they find a network of other moms they can talk to and meet up with.
Celebrity Angela Preston gives birth to a son
Preston from TV show America’s Next Top Model gave birth to 8lb 7oz Eric Bueno Brown Junior on Aug 26. Her rep told US Magazine: “Right now Angelea is on super mother mode, tending every minute to her beautiful newborn son! She’s ecstatic and cries happy tears because she can’t believe he’s here.” Welcome to the life of the working mom, Angela!
The stress of being a single mother
Research indicates single mothers experience excessive stress. The stress comes the need to provide financially for the family at the same time as caring for the home in ways traditionally handled by both men and women. Stress can have a direct impact on children, but the studies show it is by no means inevitable, and many single moms still manage to do an amazing job caring for their children.
Why are you feeling so irritable?
It’s very normal for mothers to get irritated with her children, but it doesn’t mean she’s a bad mom! For mothers, fatigue, combined with constant demands for attention from her kids, can lead to feelings of frustration, irritation and even anger at the child. The important thing is to recognize why she’s feeling that way, to not take it out on her child and find an outlet for what is, after all, very normal feelings.
What’s he smiling at? Newborns can sleep in the strangest positions
New born babies can sleep up to 16 hours a day. Of course that doesn’t mean you’ll get all the sleep you need!
Birth to 12-years old in 2 mins 45 secs
http://youtu.be/RtyqS68ViWk
Boy, do they grow up quickly! A wonderful stop-motion video showing a child growing up from newborn until she’s 12 years-old. All in the space of less than 3 minutes.
Mom’s depression can affects their baby’s brain
An article that appeared in yesterday’s Tuscon Weekly shows the impact that a mom’s depression can have on her baby. Read more…
A little boy asked his mother, “Why are you crying?” “Because I’m a woman,” she told him.
“I don’t understand,” he said. His Mom just hugged him and said, “And you never will.” Read more…
It’s official! Moms are better multi-taskers
A new study finds that women outpace men in doing more than one task at a time — and they are paying an emotional cost for doing so. Read more…
“So going into this Thanksgiving Weekend, my goal is to NOT be busy”.
Great entry from Lisa, mom of 3 about the “busy wars” moms are fighting.:
I can tell you right now, I am busy. I could list all the zillion things that I do daily. I could talk about being super tired. I could tell you that I need to color my hair so desperately that I am actively avoiding mirrors. Read more…
3rd time’s the charm…
A new entry from Lisa on how her 3rd child influenced her and her family:
It seems like forever ago, but when I was pregnant with my first child, I was excited nervous and worried. I read books, prepared his room and fretted. When he was born, I loved him with every fiber of my being. But he wasn’t a great sleeper. I was tired, but mostly, I was worried. Read more…
Sometimes it’s not you. A mother’s feelings of insecurity.
A great guest entry from Annie about self-doubt:
In this world, there are the narcissists, the confident ones, the insecure ones, the blissfully ignorant ones, the genuinely happy ones…and there are ones like me, ever-critical of self. There’s no way I’m arrogant or blissfully ignorant, but I do have moments of confidence, insecurity and genuine happiness, all to varying degrees. Read more…
My voice is hoarse from yelling at my kids.
An entry from Lisa, mom to three boys:
Shamefully, I admit that I am a yeller. I yell at my kids. ALOT. Read more…
3 kids under 3.
By guest blogger Nikki:
I’m so thrilled at the response of other mothers looking to come together to form a community of support, especially since motherhood is the most important and difficult thing anyone can do!





























































