Here is another guest entry from Cari from Tot-Wrangler about this constant feeling of guilt moms tend to have. Make sure to check the link to her blog at the bottom of this entry.
It’s no secret there is one thing that plagues every mother on the planet, Mom Guilt. All day, every day, there is ultimately something we can (and will) beat ourselves up about.
Today alone, I managed to make myself feel like shit about the following:
*I forgot my Middle Dude’s backpack and I forced him to be THAT kid carrying out his preschool masterpieces, in a brown plastic grocery bag. I sure do hope me lugging around all these other kids gives me a free pass to be scatterbrained.
*My kids eat sandwhiches in the actual shape of bread, not all fancy with the crusts off and a cookie cutter-style to coincide with the season. I suck. While I’m on the subject of lunch, I don’t even know if the littlest one ate before I put him in his crib for a nap. Cool.
*The kids are currently parked in front of the TV so I can blog about Mom guilt, which in fact causes more Mom guilt.
*I didn’t buy my kids the Elf on the Shelf (true or false?).
^ These are just small examples of the mom guilt. I haven’t even tackled the heavy hitters.
Things like: breastfeeding or not breastfeeding, working outside the home or not, losing your cool and yelling at your kids, running my kids through the McDonalds drive thru vs. packing them a nutritious bento box of organic goodness, and on and on and on.
Can we do ANYTHING right or are we doomed to somehow ruin the perfect little creatures we have been given?
And why are we feeling so guilty? Is this something all moms, throughout the ages, have had to deal with? Or has the wonderful age of Pinterest Perfectionseeped into our pores and poisoned our ability to feel confident that we are doing our best?
Is our best even going to be good enough, anyway?
The answer is simple. Yes.
I honestly believe that the moms that worry about screwing their kids up, are just conscientious enough to NOT screw their kids up (hopefully).
I won’t sit here and preach to “never feel the guilt because we are doing everything perfectly” because that’s not the truth. There is always something we can do to improve, we just have to have the ability to live and learn. It’s just important that we pick our battles, the types of people our children will become has very little to do with the shape of their sandwhiches.
So keep on doing the best you can and be sure to check in with The Tot Wrangler anytime you need to feel like an upstanding mama. There is a really good chance I will find a way to make you feel like you’re doing a wonderful job, by comparison!
Make sure to also check Cari’s blog by clicking here.